Sunday, November 7, 2010

Sustaining Your Momentum: Being Patient

In the two previous discussions about maintaining change efforts, I presented the complementary methods of releasing resistance and allowing.

When you release resistance to "what is," you break a pattern and stop struggling with life. Whether a situation can or cannot be changed, you let go of any opposition. Without resistance and habitual reactions, you can freely allow for something new. You recognize "what is" and make possible changes, or you act in a completely different way.

Consider this scenario.

Imagine you have a boss who persistently disregards and undervalues your work. You decide to release your resistance to her, pause, and begin to allow new options for yourself. After some creative brainstorming, you choose to explore some leads within other parts of your company, as well as possibilities with an organization in an entirely different industry.

Throughout these change activities, the liberating processes of releasing your resistance and allowing will powerfully support your various efforts. As you engage in releasing and allowing, the methods will interact to provoke critical questions for your next steps.

What will characterize the quality of your being as you move in your desired direction, toward your aspirations? That is, how will you think, feel, and express yourself in your journey?

To support your response to these questions, consider the pivotal role of the last method of sustaining your momentum, being patient.

Being Patient
In the dictionary, patience is associated with "the ability to endure waiting or delay without becoming annoyed or upset, or to persevere calmly."

Of course, if you release your resistance, you won't need to endure "what is" or hold on to annoyance and upset. Furthermore, if you allow, you will more easily persist or stick with your actions. In this way, the two processes promote engagement in an expanded form of being patient.

In this new form of patience, you acknowledge that quick fixes are not desirable. Rather, you know that long-lasting, sustainable change requires continuous effort, and that creating your path, step by step, in an organic way will lead to realization of your aspirations.

You go beyond tolerating challenges in your life. By persevering without resistance to your conditions and allowing new possibilities, you demonstrate a patience that strengthens feelings of ease and self-love, deepens commitment to skillful action, and helps you ultimately achieve desired forms of self-expression.

To reinforce this quality of being patient throughout the change process, consider this question:

"How much ease and self-love can I feel in being patient now?"

In the work scenario described, you would let go of any resistance you have to the current economic or career conditions, and allow plenty of time and space, take the pressure off, to explore "what is" and what might be. You ask for support from people you trust. And, you do what you wish to maintain healthy thoughts and feelings.

Your experiences of being patient in the midst of your change efforts establish the sense of competency and resiliency essential for nurturing momentum. Now you know you can handle whatever comes your way!

With steady pacing and deliberate practice, this kind of patience and self-confidence shifts your attention away from "waiting" for something external. Instead, you focus on the present moment, and abide within, as you feel the natural flow of life inspire and move you toward your aspirations.

Your letting go, receptivity, and stillness can also help you notice unexpected opportunities (e.g., jobs) as you consciously move along your path.

Play with this new "present-moment patience" for a while. Then, whenever you practice being patient in sustaining your momentum, you might reflect on this question:

"How joyfully can I experience the present moment and my essential freedom now?"

Love and Peace,
Dave

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