Sunday, July 11, 2010

Disarming Doubt

"To feel unconvinced or uncertain about something, or think something is unlikely."

In these words, the dictionary describes one of the biggest obstacles in life, especially when this suspicion, hesitation, skepticism, or distrust pertains to you.

In that situation, you experience self-doubt.

A characteristic challenge of self-doubt concerns your past history and your memories. An unsuccessful business venture, an unhappy relationship, or an ineffective communication can all lead to expectations that your future is uncertain. With that expectancy, you will hesitate in taking action, and feel suspicious of your ability.

Within this description of your possible unpleasant future you can discover some critical keys to releasing your doubt.

First, you may notice the tendency for your self-doubt to appear amorphous, huge, impenetrable, and fearsome. This paralyzing mirage allows your "little mind" (identity) to keep you right where you are. As a result, you won't try anything new, and you won't threaten your familiar ways.

The antidote requires that you recognize the actual nature of this illusion, as you fearlessly dive into the doubt with the question:
  • What is your specific self-doubt?
Some examples:
  • I doubt that I can succeed in this line of work.
  • I doubt that I can have a happy, mutual relationship.
  • I doubt that I can give an engaging presentation.
Another key involves your underlying beliefs. Consider this question:
  • What would you have to believe about yourself for this doubt to be "true" or effective?
Here are some typical beliefs related to the previous examples:
  • I'm not smart enough for this job.
  • I'm not very good in relationships.
  • I don't have the charisma to give a strong speech.
The third key suggests that you take a new view of your past experience, your current doubt, and the related belief. From this perspective, you need to allow for these truths:
  • In the past, you were doing the best you could at the time. You always do the best you are able to do.
  • The past is gone and doesn't exist, except through memories.
  • Since you can recreate the thoughts, feelings, sensations, and experiences of these memories, you can also release your attachment to them. Your memories will not be forgotten, just detached from the present. You have a choice.
  • As you let go of these memories, you forgive yourself.
Pause. Let those truths resonate within your entire bodymind.

With forgiveness and acceptance of yourself, you can drop expectations rooted in the past, and set the stage to freely create opportunities in the present. In that letting go, you can engage the final key with these questions:
  • What skills or competencies do you already have to overcome the beliefs related to your self-doubt?
  • What skills or competencies do you need (want) to overcome your limiting beliefs?
These competencies relate to the limiting belief examples:
  • I'll ask my boss about on-the-job training options.
  • I'll seek counseling to improve my relationship-building skills.
  • I'll take a course on effective public speaking and communication.
When you use these four keys, you initiate a personal revolution. The "naming" of your self-doubt reduces ambiguity and reveals doubt's illusory character. Then, you clarify beliefs that hold the doubt in place, acknowledge their past history, and let go of the associated memories.

Now, self-doubt and suspicion no longer command you.

This transformational process allows you to lovingly step into an open path to discover new possibilities.

Move with conviction!

Love and Peace,

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