Sunday, May 30, 2010

The Heart of HeartVoice

At the root of every perception, you have a powerful system of beliefs. This system has developed from your birth or earlier, and involves conscious and subconscious content. Therefore, your core beliefs significantly affect the ways you experience and make sense of yourself and your place in the world.

When you encounter someone new, you quickly assess the person's "fit" with your own belief system. As you perceive greater fit, you're more likely to be open and inviting. This feeling of similarity (resonance) will then encourage your desire to learn more about that person.

The same assessment process pertains to your involvement with businesses, organizations, groups, and others who present unfamiliar ideas. For this reason, you may want to begin your possible engagement with any "system" by examining their foundational beliefs.

As an example, you can read about my beliefs that create the vital support for all aspects of the HeartVoice system.

The Simple Truth

1. You come to this world as eternal Spirit, primordially pure, one with all beings, with the essential nature of Peace, Love, and Joy, and are born in human form to fully experience and express your true and authentic self.

2. As you develop an individual personality conditioned by society and survival habits, your nature becomes progressively obscured, you feel separate from others, and you forget your essential self.

3. You can remove your sources of obscuration, and your sense of separation from your natural self and others.

4. You can access your essence, remember your true self, and experience freedom and inspired living.

These core beliefs and their associated patterns establish a paradigm that expresses my view of the universal human design, the persistent impact of conditioning, the release from this "survival prison," and the rediscovery of natural possibilities.

Each of these truths is critical for the whole. Without the first one, for example, you might easily believe that your nature is actually the obscuration, that you truly are separate from others, and that "survival" is your best outcome. In this view, life becomes a sentence!

You might find value in exploring your own core beliefs.

Consider:
  • What would you include in your version of The Simple Truth?
  • What are your operating beliefs about your human nature?
  • What is your essential view of yourself and your environment--the core qualities and characteristics?
Reflect on these questions and write your essential beliefs. You may periodically (e.g., annually) review these beliefs to make any desired clarifications, revitalize their meaning to you, and deepen your commitment. You might also contemplate their enduring impact in the varied realms of your daily life.

May your core beliefs nurture your natural freedom and inspired expression!

Love and Peace,
Dave

Sunday, May 23, 2010

The Pause that Really Refreshes!

Remember a time when you were involved in a personal conversation with a friend and you spoke in a way that felt "off" for some reason? Where you didn't say what you really meant?

A pause would have been helpful.

Now recall another situation in which you were experiencing strong, upsetting feelings (e.g., anger, confusion, hurt) with someone you love. Then, you reacted quickly to your distress in a way that left you feeling worse about yourself or the other person.

Once again, a pause would have been beneficial.

A pause here involves creating a break between the "stimulus" and the "response." That is, you deliberately interrupt the stimulus flow of your own or another's thoughts, words, and actions, and insert a "space" in which you can reflect upon your possible responses.

Although the prevention of habit-driven, knee-jerk reactions seems likely to promote your health and happiness, you would probably have some difficulty establishing this new way of living.

What challenges your success?

Consider this.

In early childhood, the newborn demonstrates the power of reflexive actions. For example, when you put your finger in the infant's hand, she will automatically grasp. And, she will do so every time you place your finger on her palm. With development, her grasping reflex will stop, and you will see a new action. After this breakthrough moment, she will grasp your finger (or not) when she chooses.

In your own lifetime, you have reacted habitually in some ways for many decades. As an adult, you have repeated some patterns of thinking, feeling, speaking, and acting thousands of times! Of course, some of these patterns have been useful, while others have not.

Therefore, your efforts to make space for yourself require attention (see The Art of Witnessing), a commitment to your freedom and responsibility, and ongoing practice.

When these elements of attention, commitment, and practice combine with the continuous stream of Grace present in your life, you will have sufficient growth opportunities for conscious, inspired ways of being, doing, and having in the world.

This Pause (stillness) is the Source of all movement.

To engage a growth opportunity as you're moving through your day, try this practice:
  • Stop everything. Simply halt!
  • Pause.
  • Now, ask yourself: "How can I use this pause, right now, to create a response that nurtures me--that supports the quality of life I really want?"
  • Your response may be something you think, feel, say, or do.
In this practice, tap into your childlike wonder and let yourself play with different possibilities in various contexts--in the midst of everything. Allow yourself to learn from all your experiments, no matter how they work out.

Celebrate the pause that changes your life!

Love and Peace,
Dave



Saturday, May 15, 2010

Let Procrastination Work for You!

When you put off doing something, you are engaged in procrastination.

Although this word seems harmless at first encounter, many people have developed significantly damaging associations with its use. Perhaps you've made your own self-deprecating connections with the terms "procrastinate" or "procrastinator."

Here are some examples of these self-critical associations:
  • "I never finish anything I start."
  • "I am not disciplined enough to . . . "
  • "I'm just lazy."
  • "I won't be able to achieve . . . "
  • "I'm afraid to begin that project."
  • "I can't . . . "
  • And so on.
What do you imagine happens when you consistently repeat these self-defeating statements over time?

Of course, you create a self-fulfilling prophecy in which you actually experience your worst outcome. That is, you habitually (or almost automatically) resist starting something because you're convinced you won't complete the task. Then, your behavior proves that your initial self-talk was correct.

That's quite a powerful indictment to establish for your present and future actions! And, you might begin to feel hopeless in the face of this suppressing, self-sustaining situation.

Your feeling of pessimism about changing this pattern signals the need to try something different from whatever you've been doing. You need a new approach.

One place to start is with the recognition that "procrastinate" could be a helpful word. Instead of assuming that you are defective in some way, consider the possibility that when you are "procrastinating," you are putting off doing something for an important (perhaps unknown) reason.

In this context, a more useful direction would be to ask, "How do I feel about this task?"

Many times, people respond to this question with, "I'm not really interested in doing that," "I need help," "I don't want to do it," or similar remarks. With such lack of desire, confidence, and interest, "procrastination" seems like one obvious result, doesn't it?

In this scenario, without internal motivation, what other options do you have? Some promising alternatives include:
  • You delegate the task
  • You decide not to push yourself to take on the project
  • You start the activity when you have more interest or enthusiasm
  • You identify the compelling aspect of the task and only engage in that part
  • You ask for support from competent others to help you
In some cases, you will be required, for some reason, to preform a task you don't like. At these times, you might rely on your own (or your team's) creativity to discover ways to:
  • Introduce humor, curiosity, or light-heartedness into the activity
  • Arrange the project schedule to work for you (and your team)
  • Reinforce yourself with a predetermined reward at each step in the process of completing the task
  • Celebrate when you finish the project
  • Ask other people how they handle similar unpleasant situations
With such possibilities, you can transform "procrastination" from a deadly enemy that threatens your self-esteem into a neutral or friendly ally that warns you of the need and opportunity for expanded self-awareness, enhanced self-acceptance, and creative self-expression.

Engage your ally!

Love and Peace,
Dave

Friday, May 7, 2010

Reclaim Your Birthright!

Pause for a moment right now.

Stop doing anything else.

Allow yourself to become fully aware of your bodymind.

Give yourself some time and feel your body position and sensations.

Relax and gently focus your attention on your breathing--just letting the exhalations and inhalations flow smoothly and softly.

Now, with this soft witnessing, watch this video:




After you've seen the video, contemplate these questions:
  • How would you describe the infant Jane?
  • What did you notice about yourself as you experienced the child?
Consider some words people have used to describe Jane: open, quiet, unguarded, friendly, bright, present, sweet, cute, wonderment, enthusiastic, serene, happy, adorable, beautiful, aware, and so on.

Imagine watching other infants. You probably would apply similar attributes to these infants as well. Although the specific words might differ somewhat, your observations suggest that all infants possess the kinds of qualities Jane demonstrates.

While Jane doesn't have the self-awareness (consciousness) or self-expression (language) that you do as an adult, there's something compelling about her. Something inspires you to be present with her--to experience Jane's, and your own, qualities of being.

This Source of inspiration reflects Essence.

In the HeartVoice model*, Essence, or Who you are, establishes the primordial foundation for the countless expressions of qualities of being in infants, and for those you noticed in yourself.

From this perspective, all these various characteristics have their roots in three Essence qualities--Peace, Love, and Joy.

These three core qualities exist in all human beings at birth, and therefore, represent your Nature, your birthright.

If you would like to deepen your connection with your birthright, you can deliberately create more experiences that cultivate any one of the three qualities.

Here's one way to begin:
  • Select one of the qualities--Peace, Love, or Joy--for your focus.
  • Relax, breathe, and feel your bodymind (as before).
  • Watch the video again.
  • As you observe Jane, notice her expressions of your chosen quality (e.g., being peaceful).
  • Now, imagine that quality present in you as a physical sensation (e.g., warmth), a color (e.g., white), or an image (e.g., a rose), You can use one or more of these representations.
  • As you continue being with Jane, allow the strength of the sensation, color, or image to expand in you.
  • Breathe the experience into your entire bodymind.
  • When you're ready, let your eyes close, bring your attention to your Heart area, and rest in the experience of your quality.
  • Quietly close your practice with the statement:
"I am _________" (the chosen quality--Peace, Love, or Joy)

You can repeat this practice with one quality for a period of time (e.g., a month), or alternate among all three. Experiment, play, and have fun!

May you have a "Jane" experience every day!

Love and Peace,
Dave